Pedal on, sister

by Diana on September 21, 2010 · 2 comments

in Musings

Sometimes I miss my California friends so much that my lungs hurt.

When this happens, I take comfort in the fact that I am so much closer to many old friends and to family, too.  But this past summer, an old friend left Philly.

She is not terribly far, but just far enough so that I can’t grab coffee with her or make a last-minute plan.  We can still chat on the phone late at night after the kids have gone to sleep or when she is out walking her dog.

She was brave to scoop her family up to make a new start in a new place.  Watching her use her characteristic spunk to gather her life, kids, pets and belongings up and move them reminded me of why I liked her the minute I met her, years ago in the early 1990s.

One day, during her last week here in Philly, when I was at her house helping her with a few odds and ends, I suddenly turned around and saw her beloved bike on the curb.  I had been looking for an old, knock-around-town bike on Craigslist, but for some reason, I felt funny asking her if I could have it.  She said that she was getting a new bike and that it was time to part with this one, even though it had been her faithful steed for years.

Finally, I saw that she really meant to leave the bike on the curb for someone else to take, and I asked her if that taker could be me.  She said that yes, she would love to leave her old wheels with someone she knew, and hey presto, the bike had a new rider.

Triumphant, I drove the bike home.  I hauled it out of the car and showed it to my husband and my daughters, all of whom were happy to see my new-to-me bike:  torn seat, some rusty parts, but strong and with good bones.  And a bell!  And a rack on the back for one of those panniers!

I dug out my helmet and hopped up on that bike.  I rode it up and down the street like a little kid, shakily at first.  But as they say, you really don’t forget how.  I felt fabulous, the wind in my hair, zooming along while my girls cheered.

I can’t believe it’s been so long.

Whew! Got the shots

by Diana on November 13, 2009 · 1 comment

in Health, Musings

My daughters got the first of their two H1N1 shots in school yesterday.

I didn’t realize how anxious I was about H1N1 until my daughters came home from school with Band-Aids on their little shoulders and I felt a weight lift off my shoulders.

When the news of the virus first hit, I tried to stay calm and to think that all the excitement about the virus was just media hype.  Just recently, though, I read a post in my favorite New York Times blog (the blog is called Well) and learned that doctors “are seeing a lot of infections with a virus against which children have no immunity, and which has already caused more deaths in children under 5 than we would see in years of regular seasonal flu.”

After reading the above, I started to get a little nervous, especially since one of my daughters has asthma and the other has reactive airways.  The daughter with asthma is prone to pneumonia.  She’s been in the hospital twice for pneumonia, and believe me, it’s no picnic.  She pulled through it fine both times, but it’s still very scary.

So as soon as the vaccine became available in our school district, you better believe I signed my daughters up.

I know folks are concerned about the small amount of mercury in the shot.  I am concerned too. But I have a different attitude about these kinds of things since I had cancer.

Our environment is poisoned, our planet is poisoned, our bodies are poisoned.  I do not believe that we can escape it for the time being.  I believe that we can only pick lesser evils at this point; for example, I try to eat organic when I can because it’s the lesser of two evils.  But, as far as the mercury in the shot, well, I can pick between the small amount of mercury in the shot or the whopping dose of very, very powerful steroids my daughter will have to take if she gets pneumonia again.

The steroids rip her stomach up, giving her stomach aches, and then they make her aggressive for a few nasty days.  Once, to my horror, my daughter — hepped up on steroids after another bout with pneumonia — clocked her sister a good one on the jaw in the pediatrician’s office.  I was naturally mortified and tried to explain to the doctor that my daughter didn’t usually punch her sister unprovoked.  He looked unimpressed and simply said, “I call it ‘Roid Rage. It’s a very real thing.”

You bet your sweet patootie it’s real.  Which would you choose?  To me, it’s a no-brainer.  We’ll take the shots, thank you very much.

A little mercury in the shots, yeesh.  I can only imagine what’s in our tap water.

New York City, where the Internet is paved with gold

October 1, 2009

Dwayne and I celebrated our anniversary last week — 8 years of marriage and 11 years of unwedded bliss before that, so, effectively, 19 years together. Happy! To celebrate, this past Saturday, we left our daughters with my sister for the afternoon and then with my mom overnight, and we headed to New York City [...]

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Apparently, my cancer is travelling to the East Coast

September 16, 2009

Now that I live in Pennsylvania, I have to find new oncologists, of course.  Recently, I spent a stunning amount of time on the phone getting registered with the docs at the University of Pennsylvania.  The doctors there in the breast cancer center are named “top docs” in a number of places, and they’re known [...]

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Hair detergent, or What Happens When You’ve Lost Too Many Brain Cells

September 13, 2009

Today I was chattering along with my husband as we headed to Target to get a few necessities for the week.  We were trying to make a list, and I remembered a conversation we had earlier in the week, when my husband said that we were running low on our daughters’ shampoo.  So, I asked [...]

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Archaeology

August 25, 2009

The new house we are renting has a lawn, a side garden, and a tangle of ivy in the back yard.  My mom and a friend of hers came to help me get the side garden going, but I have been on my own to unwind the ivy tangle in the back yard. Mind you, [...]

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Just a year ago

August 10, 2009

I just re-read the e-mail I sent to myself and to my husband the night before I had surgery for breast cancer.  My surgery was exactly a year ago tomorrow. After writing and sending that e-mail, I remember sending it off and then going to bed.  In the morning I had to wake up quite [...]

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Ahhh, Maine

July 23, 2009

Last year around this time, I was finishing up chemotherapy and trying to think of ways to explain to my children that soon, I’d be going to the hospital for surgery.  Practically everyone I knew was going on some sort of lovely vacation.  But we weren’t going anywhere, of course. I tried not to feel [...]

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Embrace it or get rid of it

July 15, 2009

We successfully arrived in our new neighborhood.  It looks like a toy bomb went off in here, but otherwise we are having a really good time so far. Until I have time to write a longer post, here’s the short version: lots of neighborhood kids, family visits, firefly catching, running around in bare feet, splashing [...]

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This is one big country

June 28, 2009

I was thinking this today as we continued to drive across it. After manic packing all last week, the moving truck came on Friday.  It was a long day for us, especially for my husband, who packed absolutely non-stop the whole time the movers were moving. We had gone to bed the night before, exhausted, [...]

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